The idea of traveling alone can be scary. Especially if the solo travel is for pleasure, not business, where your time will be occupied with work-related events and meetings. The idea of leaving it all behind—traversing the globe all by your lonesome—can be frightening for
some many. Luckily there are some tips for traveling alone that can make the experience much less painful.
Solo Travel for Women
Before I traveled alone for the first time, the idea of solo travel certainly was scary for me. But after I got tired of waiting for others to get on board with my travel desires, I was forced to pull the trigger or give up. I chose to pull the trigger, and it was one of the best decisions I have made in a long time. I had such a memorable experience that in the years since I took my first solo international trip to Panama in 2015 that I have visited nine countries solo since.
And you can do the same thing. But before you embark on that journey, there are some considerations to take to ensure an unforgettable trip. A lot of people worry about the safety of solo travel, especially for women, but there are plenty of safe places for women to travel alone. Below are my reflections, having visited my 10th country solo a few months ago, on how to have an amazing solo excursion.
1. Know thyself and to thine own self be true.
You are planning a trip for yourself. You don’t have to take anyone else into consideration, and only have to worry about yourself. That is so liberating.
If can also be daunting. In order to do this, you have to know yourself. This is the first of many tips for traveling alone, and it is the most important. Sit down, think about, and even make a list of what you want and need in a vacation. Put together a compilation of what you are trying to accomplish and what you are trying to avoid relating to your trip. Assess the type of person that you are. If you are introverted, putting yourself in a situation of constant and continuous forced communication or mixing and mingling may doom your trip before you start. Conversely, an extrovert may not need to go to a silence retreat (unless you are searching for something you believe silence can give you). Assess the type of person you are and what makes you happy. This is all about happiness and expanding your horizons, so it pays to know what your horizons are.
2. Choose a destination/hotel/activities that fit your needs.
Tying into tip #1, make sure to assess your wants and needs for this particular adventure, and make sure to research various aspects to help achieve what you are looking for in a solo excursion.
Are you looking for cultural exploration? You may want to consider a guided tour. Burnt out from work? Then perhaps a relaxing beach vacation would be up your alley. But if you are looking for quiet reflection and relaxation, New York City may not be the answer for you (newsflash: It is NEVER quiet). Assess all that you are looking to accomplish and pick a destination that allows for those activities and options. Examining where to travel alone based on your needs is key.
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3. Manage Your Expectations.
Just like any trip you take, your solo trip will be what you make it. That being said, remember that things don’t always go as planned and stuff comes up. You can’t plan every detail of any trip, and inevitably, unexpected things happen. So manage your expectations on perfection. Adapt and go with the flow. Don’t expect everything to go without flaw. Nothing in life works like that, so why would your trip be any different?
4. Occupy Yourself.
One of the biggest tricks of solo travel is to occupy yourself. While you don’t need to plan every minute of every day (you want to leave some room for spontaneity based on how you feel that day), plan out some activities for yourself. Everywhere has various options for travelers to the area for travelers taking singles vacations. Just know what you like to do, and assess what occupies your mind before you go. Love to read? Pack lots of book and magazine options. Love photography? Go on a walking tour of the city or a bus tour to a scenic, picturesque setting. Love to be pampered? A spa is the answer. Foodie? Check out local food tours and cooking classes and get recommendations on the best local spots to try.
5. You will feel lonely at some point. And that’s okay.
Don’t expect to go the entire trip without having a lonely moment. Or longer than a moment. It’s natural. Human beings are social creatures. When we are alone for an extended period of time, it is normal to feel a bit lonely.
But you can use that loneliness to your advantage, to better yourself. When I had a lonely moment, I reflected. I thought things over. I used that time to determine what was really making me lonely, or was there something underneath that I needed to process. And once I went through that exercise, I came out the other side for the better and much stronger. If you prefer a different approach, use that loneliness to push you to meet new people. Everyone hangs out by the pool, the bar, etc. Go down and chat with new people. Make new friends. You never know, those people you meet may turn into something greater going forward.
6. Savor the moment and take it all in.
Just as with any trip, savor your time away. And especially with a solo trip, relish in your alone time. It won’t be long before you are back to your daily grind, with spouses or children or bosses or co-workers making demands on your time and energy, so enjoy the solitude away from it all. For most of us, it is not often that we are able to escape the hustle and bustle of everyday life. So live it up while you have the chance.
If you tend to be extroverted and social butterfly, connect with travel communities or ask well-traveled friends if they have any connections where you are going. You may be surprised, as I was, that there were a number of connections in Panama at the same time I was, and I was able to have a great mix of alone time and time spent hanging out with others and experiencing local life from a different perspective.
8. Go where you are comfortable…but step outside the box.
Also known as don’t be so scary. Of course, certain factors have to be taken into consideration, especially regarding solo travel. If you are a woman traveling alone, after conducting in depth research, there may be certain destinations that you decide you want to avoid. Additionally, political, social, and religious climates may also be a factor to consider. Wherever you choose based on your needs, you want to decide on somewhere that you think you can feel somewhat comfortable because you don’t want to be so worried about safety that you are paralyzed with fear.
But that being said, still step outside the box and explore. Go somewhere that makes you slightly uncomfortable, so that you can grow and evolve. You don’t want to totally shelter yourself, and remember, nowhere—even at home—is 100% safe. Branch out a bit so you can learn more about the world.
9. Reserve Judgment. Do it once.
We can think of excuses to get out of everything. Or perhaps you just don’t think solo travel would be something you would enjoy, for any number of reasons. But reserve those judgments and just do it once. If you don’t like it after trying it, then you don’t have to do it again, but at least you will have some foundation for your decision. But it is something that I recommend everyone try once. Who knows… you may learn more about yourself than you think.
Tips for Traveling Alone
So there you have it! Several tips for traveling alone, everything from tips to considerations for when planning your next singles vacation. A lot of people worry about safe places for women to travel alone and solo travel for women in general, but with proper preparation there’s no need to fear stepping outside of your comfort zone. Everyone should try traveling solo at least once, and now you have some solo travel tips to help in your journey.
Sound off! For those who have taken a solo expedition, what are some of your tips for solo travelers?
Photo Credits: Suitcase: Shutterstock/ Tlikoff Photography. Swing: Shutterstock/Antonio Guillem. Signs: Shutterstock/ Strejman. Hands: Shutterstock/Junial Enterprises
Great tips. I travel solo most of the time and love it.
awesome tips! I used to travel solo and enjoyed it.
These are some great tips!!! I use to travel
Solo all the time pre baby days!
Penny Struebig says
I’ve only traveled solo for business, but never for pleasure. I think I just like the idea of having someone with me to share the experience with. I travel with my friends often and absolutely love having them with me.
I don’t think loneliness is always a bad thing. Helps us appreciate those times better when we do get to get social. 🙂 I’d travel solo, I think, but in all honesty, I’d rather have my kiddos with…
Life as a Convert says
I have never traveled alone before. The thought is quite scary for me.
I honestly never traveled alone before. I used to be put off by the idea since so much goes on these days. However, I believe that want to attempt it at least once.
ROSEMARY PALMER says
I’m not sure I would want to travel solo. I’m always willing to join in, but i love having someone with me. I’m happy my husband is always willing to do almost anything.
Franc Ramon says
It’s really important to do something you are passionate about so you’ll appreciate every moment of it. Also, go to the trip with an open mind so you’ll have room for surprises.
Kath Rivera says
Great tips! I’m not sure if I can do it on my own. There are things that I need to consider when travelling alone and your tips can be my guide. I hope to have guts on travelling alone someday.
These are great tips. I have tried traveling solo when I was younger. It was fun and I loved the freedom.
I love traveling alone for all of the reasons you discussed and then some. I’m glad you wrote about this as few people understand.
Something that I would love to try, because I would like to learn to be by myself sometimes, something that i am not great at because i have always been a part of a huge family, great tips! #brownbloglove
Angelic Sinova says
I really love this post! So many of my friend want to travel but are afraid to do it alone (since we all have such different schedules) so they miss out on amazing travel experiences. I’ve traveled alone for both work and pleasure and I loved it <3
Jaime Nicole says
I loved solo travel when I was single. You really can’t beat it for the spontaneity it offers you and the wonderful adventures you can have when you are free to take advantage of opportunities on the fly.
Megan Elford says
I’ve never traveled on my own as a sight-seeing vacation. I think I would enjoy it a great deal, but probably not for more than 2 or 3 days. I like the idea of being on my own (as a confirmed introvert), but I do enjoy experiencing things with others too.
robin masshole mommy says
I have never traveled alone and honestly, I don’t really think I would enjoy it. I don’t like to be alone, especially in someplace I’m not familiar with.
Joann Woolley says
I look forward to doing this one day. When I was younger I wouldn’t even dream of going somewhere on my own but now with my 3 kids being the center of our attention 24/7 I think I’d love a solo adventure!
Thank you for these tips. I never traveled solo before but I would though to give myself a break from everyday life.
Traveling solo would be a fun, but I think I’d be a little nervous. I’d rather vacation with family. since we don’t do much.
Aisha Johnson Adams says
I actually love to travel alone. It is a great time to catch up on writing and do exactly the things I love to do with the influence of family and friends. I have about 2 more years before I can do it more frequently….
Great tips. I travel solo often and it does get lonely sometimes, but it is so important to take that time to get to know yourself and enjoy the moment.
Before I got married, I traveled along a LOT. Going with the flow was my mantra and it’s carried over to traveling with family now!
Kimberly Bolden says
Managing expectations while travelling is so key. Things never go exactly as plan but if we go with the flow sometimes they can go better than expected
Joanne T Ferguson says
I really admire anyone who likes to travel solo as am not sure I personally would like to do! These are great tips and one I will take on board! To me, safety is always the number one priority!
Very true, safety is important. But remember if you have a business trip, for example, you would likely go by yourself. Sometimes it’s nice to have a little alone time. But you have to be sure you are going to a safe place, and anywhere you go be sure to practice safe behaviors!
T. Espinoza says
I’ve never traveled solo and I don’t know when I’ll ever have the opportunity to but these tips will definitely come in handy if I ever get the chance.
I’ve never been on a solo trip, I’ve always gone with travel groups or for business. A solo trip sounds daunting, scary and fun…all at the same time. Thanks for sharing the tips. Your advice makes sense.
All very true and great advice. It was tough for me when I decided to do my first solo trip years ago. But it turned into excitement and the experience taught me so much about myself. I still do mini solo trips to regroup and refresh. It is important to get in touch with your own thoughts and being.
Camesha | Mama Motivator says
These are great tips. I wish I’d traveled alone more when I was single. I did a trip to Vegas here and there.